How Dallas Women Do It – Dr. Lyndsey Harper, Founder of Rosy

For Dr. Lyndsey Harper, medicine has always been about helping others. However, Harper realized early on as an obstetrician-gynecologist that medicine left a huge void when it came to helping women manage their sexual health and well-being. A fierce desire to help his patients and educate everyone on these issues led Harper to found Pink, a one-of-a-kind platform to help women find answers to their questions unashamedly and through a holistic, evidence-based approach.

Harper speaks with PaperCity about everything from finding personal care in a bookstore to realizing that most doctors are unprepared to deal with women’s sexual health issues – even though 43% of women do.

PaperCity: What does your journey to become a doctor look like?

Lyndsey harper: I’ve wanted to be a doctor all my life since I was little. I had a very straightforward journey and had no decision making issues with college or medical school… which was a gift. I went straight to the end and was very passionate about OB / GYN in medical school. I loved being able to hang out and talk to women all day, being able to do surgery and also the babies. I am obsessed with them and can’t get enough of the birth. It’s the coolest opportunity, gift, and vulnerability you can be a part of in someone’s life. So OB / GYN was an easy decision for me.

What inspired you to create Rosy?

LH: When I was in practice, I started making my antenna available to all my patients who needed help with sexual problems. My patients would find it hard to ask, “Why don’t I ever want to have sex?” Or “why can’t I have an orgasm like before?” “Or” what is the cause of this pain? “

And, when I was trying to navigate all of this, I felt like I didn’t really have good answers for them. I felt like I missed these women. These are not easy things to say, and it’s a big deal for them – I couldn’t give them what they needed, and it bothered me a lot. So I started asking other doctors and started creating Facebook groups for female doctors and obstetricians / gynecologists. had not received training on all these issues that 43% of women have. It started to really put me in my skin.

You know, urologists deal with all kinds of male sexual dysfunction. Insurance covers erectile dysfunction drugs and penile implants – why don’t doctors even know how to talk to women about women’s issues? It started to irritate me enough where I started to act. I joined a medical society where all they do is study evidence-based interventions for women’s sexual health, I became a member of that organization, and then I really became passionate about not just the fact to help patients in my home practice, but also to try to get the word out widely that, you know, these are really common problems! You are not broken. There are experts who really want to help you. Because we don’t talk about these things in society, women end up suffering on their own – because they think they are the only ones with these issues. They think they must be so broken that even their doctors don’t know what to do, right? It is this problem that is perpetuated, and it does not necessarily have to be so. In fact, it shouldn’t be.

We are decades behind men when it comes to our sexual health, and I wanted to do all I could to be a part of this change. This is where the idea and the real company of Rosy was born. I can’t understand how we are where we are in the world today, and there are so many people who are not even aware of this gap.

What is your daily life like at the head of Rosy?

LH: I always set aside an hour a day for e-mails. I learned early enough that if I didn’t designate a time for emails, I was always going to be underwater. I’m a Type A personality who likes to do things when I say I’m going to do them, so I live and die on my schedule. I’m so thankful that my kids are in school this year because that was a whole different issue.

After emails I usually have a meeting or a set time for a project, whether it’s a meeting or a product or research (we do a lot of original research at Rosy) or a marketing strategy. We talk a lot about user experience and these potential opportunities to add more value, and I also speak a lot in public in front of physician groups and women’s groups. There are a lot of different things that make up my day, but it usually involves my team or different partners that we work with. We usually create content or do outward looking things like educating doctors or women on these very common issues.

How do you prioritize your own mental and physical health?

LH: It has been a real journey for me because growing up in the culture of medicine and seeing patients every 5-7 minutes is so difficult. [Prioritizing mental health] is not something that is a priority in medicine, so when I came out of private practice and into the start-up world I had the opportunity to really do this business in many different ways and my day-to-day exactly as I wanted to be.

The most important thing I do for my sanity is to allocate as specific a time slot as I think I need for a certain activity. When I first started I was like, “Oh, I’m going to do 30 minutes, 30 minutes, 30 minutes, 30 minutes”, and because of that, I was constantly underwater. I promised myself things to myself and to others that were absolutely inaccessible and that drove me crazy. I like to deliver. Now I’m like ‘okay, I need to make a deck for this presentation. I know it’s going to take me 2-3 solid hours ”, so I’m going to give myself a block. It’s really, for me, how productive and efficient I am and how I can make visible progress on these larger goals. It’s really about tying the time I’m making available to the business with the goals I’m trying to accomplish and really thinking about what those commitments mean.

This is something that I probably developed as an obstetrician because I couldn’t always be there for my patients when I was on leave. I have three children, and if someone was in labor and I wasn’t, someone else would deliver them. I had to emotionally separate myself from these things a long time ago, and I’m trying to practice this now. When I’m with my kids, I really want to be with my kids – and I want them to have a mom around. I’ve made different decisions than in the past in private practice, so now it’s a combination of controlling my own schedule and the security that there is enough time to do everything and that things will be done. There are obviously times when I have to work harder, but I try to be honest with myself about all of my commitments, so I don’t constantly feel guilty for being bad at everything.

What advice would you give to women in Dallas?

LH: I like giving talks to women in Dallas because there is nothing more fun. I feel like if there is something that you are passionate about or want to try, you give yourself the opportunity to explore what it could be like. While this is really scary and loaded with a lot of risk, self-doubt, and questions about whether you’re the right fit for the job, the reward – creativity, passion, and the ability to be able to connect with people. others that comes with it is the ultimate reward.

If there’s anything you’re considering it’s an ember looking for oxygen, give it oxygen. Sit down with yourself and explore your brain, and ask what this might be like in your life. It may be positive for you, your challenge and your journey! At least give yourself time to assess it, as it can be very illuminating.

Okay, let’s have a little fun …

What’s your favorite coffee order in Dallas?

LH: It’s definitely Starbucks. I get a big caffe misto.

What’s the best Dallas meal you’ve ever had?

LH: This underground restaurant (it’s closed now) called FRANK – it was amazing. It was in this chef’s apartment in the Adam Hats building, and you had to participate in a lottery to be invited. We’ve been invited twice, and you go to this loft with a random bunch of people, and you’re at this really long communal table and they cook this amazing dinner for you. The food was great and I love going on culinary adventures – and that’s what I felt, a culinary adventure that allowed us to meet people and understand from the chef’s perspective.

What are your favorite local wellness spots?

LH: I used to train in the hospital gym, but my trainer comes to my house from Covid… so I’m super spoiled. I don’t think The Joule can be beaten, and if I had to pick something to do on my own, it would be going to a bookstore. I like coffee and books, and to sit and look at books, and I like Interabang. I don’t do this often because I have 3 kids, but I like a good bookstore.

What’s your favorite Dallas hidden gem?

LH: Tasty pastry – I love their macaroons. Or, at Eatzi. It’s not that hidden, but …

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